Sunday 20 January 2013

My Random Thoughts about Happiness



What is Happiness?
What is Happiness? If some is asked to define a house, may be s/he would say, “house is a building with a roof and windows with an entrance having rooms inside’’ or I don’t know if s/he would define it differently , so is Happiness. To me personally it is the sum of all the happiness is the Gross National Happiness. Everybody like to be happy, no body like to live in adverse conditions. We wear different dresses, we talk different dialects, we have different food habits, we have different culture and beliefs so on and so forth. But all those different dialects, different food habits and so on, do not mean we are different.

After having born on this shared earth what are your objectives? To own 30 acres of land? To be the most powerful and richest human? I don’t know if your objective is to make relationship with so many partners and to get separated when you are bored. The objectives in our live are to achieve happiness. So how can we achieve it? Any achievements do not come at once. If we are given a plateful of rice, can we eat that rice at once? Spoon by spoon we can eat it right? We can’t eat at once, so is in achieving the goals. Without the helping hands of others, it is impossible to achieve the bigger goals. We are as strong as we are united and divided, we fail. 

There is no short cut to happiness.  Most of us seek temporary happiness rather than lifelong happiness. The short term happiness may lead us to lifelong ailment. Nothing can heal that wound of regrets. Before anything bad happens, we should know what is good for better livelihood.  Being a human being, it is our ability to distinguish between good and better.
How can we be happy? If we want to be happy, we should make others happy first. Then only we can be happy. How can some one live happily when s/he is of much cruel to others?
How can we not be happy when others are happy with our contributions?  To be happy one must understand others. In understanding others, one must understand oneself. Little understanding would be better than misunderstanding. 

Where is Happiness?
Where can we find Happiness? In the cities? In the industrial areas where there is lots of pollution? In the streets?
Happiness is in the villages where there is not much intervention of modern facilities. Unlike in the urban centers, facilities in the villages are countable. Yet, villagers are the truly happy people with the least they have. They are the people who actually enjoy the true happiness. They have no worries for insecurity and no tension of work load. But nothing remains same and no everything will happen as we think. The future is not that safe from every angle.
Love and care from parents to children (and vice versa) are still breathing. Faithfulness and trusts are still strong among partners. Bonds between relatives and neighbors are still concrete. Different cultural practices are still breathing in the villages. Their respect to the costume and culture is incredible. One cannot deny believes of villagers because they have been practicing those cultures for generations and they are very much related to religious facts and can be even related to the science. Of course, there are exceptions. People in the villages have very strong relations among themselves, their neighbors and the relatives which are lagging in the urban centers. It’s my personal view. Whenever the problems arise, they help each other. Every household contributes their helping hands, whether it is for personal or whether it is for public. If they were educated, I use to think that the situation would have been much better.
Whereas, in urban centers, where most of so called “High Officials” lives, love and care between parents and children are weakening. Disrespect for the elders and care for the youngers are vanishing. Distrust and unfaithfulness among partners are blooming. I don’t know the situation about the relatives and neighbours in urban areas. I don’t think it will have connections though I am not pessimist. 
Some of the neglected traditional technologies are available in the villages like water mills, stone mills; stone and wood rice hullers which we cannot find in the urban centers. These technologies are more than 100 years old. They have been using these technologies from generations to generations. Once modern western technologies are brought into traditional society, they manage to superimpose themselves and compete successfully with local production machines. Traditional technologies are in the verge of extinct.

Meeting the farmers in the villages and sharing about the past could be the happiest movement. The elderly people in the villages have no wish to go to the cities. It is not because they have nobody to look after them; it is because they found true happiness in their own homes.